Dear Dr. J, What do I say to a same-sex married lesbian niece whose mother (my sister-in-law) just left a phone message saying they “are expecting twins”? Congratulations just doesn’t seem right but it’s not the children’s faults. It doesn’t seem right to create a family rift over this but neither can I be happy… Continue reading Dear Dr. J: My niece is expecting twins with her same sex partner.
In my line of work, people tell me their stories of family breakdown and heartbreak. I recently heard the following story. I will tell it in first person, roughly as it was told to me. My comments are in blue italics. “Like you and your husband, my wife and I went through years of infertility. We… Continue reading Padres: please tell us the full truth!
At the Ruth Institute, we have identified the Guilty Conscience Problem as the key to the Sexual Revolution. The idea is this: people who are plagued by a guilty conscience do not think clearly. They will go to great lengths to deflect attention from whatever is burdening their consciences. If we are correct about this,… Continue reading The Guilty Conscience Problem
The Ruth Institute held another Healing Family Breakdown Retreat this past weekend. As I listen to people share their stories of family breakdown, a procession of past encounters marches through my memory. People tell me their stories, and not just at times appointed for this purpose, like the Retreat. I recall: a college student in… Continue reading “Nobody told me it was wrong”
The Federal government’s programs for poor relief undermine the ability of the poorest people in society to get married and stay married. Consider these facts: For women with a high-school degree and maybe some college, 58% percent of their firstborn children are born out of wedlock. These children end up having limited contact and relationships… Continue reading Poor Kids Deserve Their Own Parents, too.
Jesus made His position on divorce very clear: One to a customer for life. (Slight paraphrase.) Seriously. His apostles were quite frankly, freaked out. He doubled down, and started talking to them about celibacy. Seriously. Look it up in Matthew 19. With the benefit of 2000 years of hindsight, we can see the wisdom of… Continue reading Jesus was right, and we can prove it.
We started the Tell Ruth the Truth blog to give Survivors of the Sexual Revolution a chance to tell their stories of heartache and recovery. I’m very taken with a recent post, from a man who calls himself “E.H.” He had the courage to share his story this week. “Playboy magazine had sold me a pack of… Continue reading “Playboy sold me a pack of airbrushed lies.”