A little girl in New York is in foster care, even though her father is a perfectly fit parent. The court will not even recognize him as her father. How is this possible, you ask? The little girl’s mother is in a same sex union. The girl is in foster care, because of neglect petitions… Continue reading Your child is only your child when the government says so.
Dear Dr. J, What do I say to a same-sex married lesbian niece whose mother (my sister-in-law) just left a phone message saying they “are expecting twins”? Congratulations just doesn’t seem right but it’s not the children’s faults. It doesn’t seem right to create a family rift over this but neither can I be happy… Continue reading Dear Dr. J: My niece is expecting twins with her same sex partner.
In my line of work, people tell me their stories of family breakdown and heartbreak. I recently heard the following story. I will tell it in first person, roughly as it was told to me. My comments are in blue italics. “Like you and your husband, my wife and I went through years of infertility. We… Continue reading Padres: please tell us the full truth!
The Ruth Institute held another Healing Family Breakdown Retreat this past weekend. As I listen to people share their stories of family breakdown, a procession of past encounters marches through my memory. People tell me their stories, and not just at times appointed for this purpose, like the Retreat. I recall: a college student in… Continue reading “Nobody told me it was wrong”